Everyone wants to thrive on some level.
And whether you’re thriving or struggling, part of you hopes for a better life. However, you may be unsure how to get there.
It doesn’t mean it’s not possible, it requires a shift in awareness and leaving your old life behind to attain something better.
It was the late Dr. David Hawkins who wrote in Healing and Recovery: “Problems are best solved not on the level where they appear to occur but on the next level above them….Problems are best solved by transcending them and looking at them from a higher viewpoint. At the higher level, the problems automatically resolve themselves because of that shift in point of view, or one might see there was no problem at all.”
He realised the same mind that creates your problems is not the same mind that resolves them. Hence, you must develop a change in awareness to transcend your problems. It is only once you create this inner shift that life will make sense on a deeper level.
Have you noticed when you finally understood something, suddenly everything seems to click into place? You may have questioned how you held on to your previous point of view for so long, when everything was made clear in an instant.
These are moments of clarity or a rise in consciousness where you leave behind your old way of thinking behind and see life in a new way. It is a paradigm shift in which you release old layers of conditioning to gain a new sense of hope and optimism.
Part of you recognises the greatness within you, yet your former self repeats old patterns and you find yourself stuck in this cycle. Perhaps on some level you’re not ready to embrace a new way of life. I don’t know and you may not know either, but it’s worth taking the time to examine your motives and face your fears of what a new life will bring.
You might fear stepping into the unknown contains pitfalls you’re not ready to embrace. Change is subtle, unless it is thrust upon you. So don’t worry about what you have to lose, but consider what you have to gain when shedding your previous life.
Everyone has the opportunity to live boldly and passionately, it is whether they choose to do so that will determine their choices. It was the ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle who first stated: “Nature abhors a vacuum,” meaning it is unnatural to find an unfilled space in nature because something will always occupy its place.
I offer you the following six ways to live boldly and passionately as if your life really depends on it. When you come from this place of knowing, you’re invited to seek answers as though your life is at stake, rather than make a decision because it feels right.
What if in your sleep one night you were visited by the Grim Reaper and asked whether you wish to live boldly and passionately as if your life depends on it? If you answered no, you would be called back from where you came. If you answer yes, your future would change and you could never go back to living the life that you once lived.
This is how you must approach every day of your life, so that every minute becomes a testimony to serving your highest good instead of merely getting by.
1. Live Without Regret
Find Your Motivation
“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” — Jim Rohn
Regret arises when you live less than what you are capable of. It signifies going against the tide of your inner wisdom, essential to your personal growth. Regret serves as a reminder your actions are not purposeful and a clearer intent is required.
You must connect with a deeper motivation if you wish to live a life without regrets. This inner resource summons you to play better than what you have been. Don’t hide behind excuses when life does not turn out as you hoped, since you are likely to become a victim instead of a victor.
You cannot make sense of life because sometimes you don’t have access to certain information. The father of psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud said, “Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.” He was saying, sometimes there is no hidden meaning to events and things appear as they are. You create meaning to make sense of the world. This does not mean life is unfair; rather you are unaware of the significance of those events.
“Make the most of your regrets; never smother your sorrow, but tend to and cherish it till it comes to have a separate and integral interest. To regret deeply is to live afresh.”
— Henry David Thoreau
That’s why you should be purposeful in your actions, instead of acting from a place of fear. When you take inspired action, everything unfolds according to a greater plan. The pieces of the puzzle come together as they should, and not a moment sooner.
I am drawn to the guidance by author Robbie Vorhaus who states in One Less. One More: Follow Your Heart. Be Happy. Change Slowly, “Remember, regrets are not real, although they feel that way. Like fear, regrets are only thoughts in your mind, feedback that the ego is trying to control something it can’t.” The secret to living without regrets is to act intentionally with what is of importance to you.
If you are dictated by what popular culture considers important, you are not honouring your deepest wisdom, but following the masses. This is likely to result in regrets and uninspired action.
Many of life’s problems result from following others, hoping they hold the key to your happiness. This seldom works because these same people lead lives of quiet desperation, as the American essayist Henry David Thoreau affirmed.
One need only look to celebrities where fame is considered a measure of happiness. Just because they are adorned by millions, doesn’t mean their life is devoid of problems. They may pay a price for their fame that includes: unfulfilled lives, substance abuse, and psychological pain when trying to uphold a particular image.
To live without regrets, pursue what you value most and fills your life with joy irrespective of what others consider. This does not mean your actions should affect others, though do not be dictated by what they consider important. People will disapprove how you live your life because it does not conform to their opinions. It may jeopardise their self-esteem since they have not taken action to follow their goals or dreams.
This should not dissuade you from following your bliss as the American mystic, Joseph Campbell reminds us. Similarly, people are afraid to try new things for fear of failure. When did failure embed itself in our psyche that it stopped us in our tracks? Failure is merely feedback, alerting you to something that requires additional steps for completion. It should not impact your self-worth unless you allow it to.
A Compelling Why?
“If we want to feel an undying passion for our work, if we want to feel we are contributing to something bigger than ourselves, we all need to know our WHY.” ― Simon Sinek, Find Your Why
Regret rears its ugly head when your actions are not aligned with your WHY. This is your underlying motivation clothed in a deeper purpose. Otherwise, you are likely to plod along and throw caution to the wind, hoping your efforts succeed. If it doesn’t, you experience regret and a blow to your self-esteem since you have not tied it to your intrinsic values.
Living in the present moment offers the opportunity to reconnect with what is important now. You are constantly at the mercy of your thoughts, recalling the past or expecting the future to arrive as you hope for. Yet, you feel regret because the past does not match the mental image you expect.
Being present is not smooth sailing either because life has a way of pulling you into the future. Your friends, family or co-workers make plans for tomorrow or next week. Your diary is packed full of events months in advance. It becomes natural to live this way, so your thoughts become fixed on being anywhere but now. Professor and psychologist Philip Zimbardo labels these people future-orientated.
Those who live in the now, experience a deep rapture and joy because they lose their connection to the past and future. They are attentive to the present moment, the source of their being. Therefore, carve out time to reconnect with yourself and avoid getting caught up in the chaos of everyday life.
Life advances at a fast pace, it’s easy to lose sight of your inner needs until a major crisis appears. By then, it’s too late because the foundations that once held your life together have collapsed, taking your sense of purpose with it.
To reconnect with your inner intelligence, tune in to the voice of your inner self. This may be as: play, movement or any form of creative expression. The child within wants to be heard. If you dismiss it because things out there distract you, you miss exploring what is vital to your joy and happiness.
I invite you to look unfavourably on regret and live an intentional life. When you are aligned with something greater, there is no room for regret. Instead, purposeful action commandeers the helm to lead you toward a life replete with fulfilment and bliss.
2. Make Peace With Your Emotional Wounds Because They Strengthen You
Concealing the Pain
“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.” — Helen Keller
Despite your intense emotional wounds, the hurt will pass and scars eventually heal. To relive the pain reinforces the experience because you cling to the emotions instead of process them. As time moves on so does the emotional strain, yet you needn’t clutch to your pain story. You can suffer or let go of what no longer serves you.
Many people mask their pain by avoiding it. They rather forget the hurt which only reinforces it. You must love and acknowledge your darker aspects like your pain and grief. If you appreciate the sun and wish away the darkness how would you see the stars at night?
Your emotional wounds lead you to your wholeness. It is remiss to emphasise the darkness while identifying with your light since you encompass both parts. Pain is a powerful teacher that connects you with your inner wisdom. Without pain, how can you recognise the enduring self that lies beneath the rubble of suffering? Without pain, you are powerless to embrace the entirety of who you are.
Your emotional wounds do not imply you are flawed, yet show your true character. They are your battle scars that show you have danced with life and lived to tell the tale. You communicate to others of the struggles that lie ahead, having traversed the path yourself.
Your wounds lie fragmented deep within your psyche. If you have not reconciled them, they grow stronger until you address them. They are the imposing shadow, lurking in the darkness waiting to grab hold if you grow weary.
A Return to Love
“When I stand before thee at the day’s end, thou shalt see my scars and know that I had my wounds and also my healing.” — Rabindranath Tagore
You can become your own healer via loving and nurturing declarations to yourself. This reinforces how it is now safe to face these emotions with openness to heal. Your emotional wounds call you to connect with your inner child instead of fleeing when the pain intensifies.
To run away from pain is the opposite of loving kindness because you neglect to honour your emotional wellbeing. You must love yourself foremost as you would a friend or loved one who is hurt.
To demonstrate this commitment, consider the vows recited when two people marry: to honour one another through the good times and bad. So you ought to make the same commitment to yourself. Irrespective of the emotions that arise, you will honour them.
There is a broader lesson contained within each emotional wound. If you penetrate through the pain, you realise it is a return to love as the American spiritual teacher Marianne Williamson affirms. So when you experience pain and suffering, love yourself. When you feel anxiety and tension, love yourself. When you feel happiness and joy, love yourself.
This simple act of self-renewal permeates into your conscious, so regardless of the external conditions, your deepest wisdom leads you to connect with your heart.
To heal, you should de-clutter your life and nurture the child within, while creating a secure environment for healing to occur.
“When we quit thinking primarily about ourselves and our own self-preservation, we undergo a truly heroic transformation of consciousness.” — Joseph Campbell
The saying, time heals all wounds does not hold significance if you don’t make the time to face them. You may store away the emotional fragments of the past, only to have them reappear at a later stage.
To confront your emotional wounds means to honour yourself foremost. No matter what emerges, you trust you will cope.
Everyone is bound to experience hurt and pain in their lives. Unless you’ve lived under a rock, everyone carries emotional pain. It’s how you transform the pain to develop a deeper relationship with yourself that leads to inner freedom.
Your wounds strengthen you because they invite you to be sensitive to your emotional life. You become inquisitive about your emotions and examine them with openness and equanimity.
Your childhood wounds are exposed through adult relationships and if you do little to confront them, they can ruin your life. Therefore, they are a gift guiding you to heal within.
Through mindfulness, you ground yourself in the present moment and experience any emotions that emerge. This simple act cultivates true intimacy with yourself. So avoid holding on to your pain. There is no power gained from being a victim, other than to deflect your wounds onto others to appease your suffering.
John Prendergast Ph.D. states: “If our heart has been closed and then begins to open, we often discover why our native sensitivity originally shut down. Old emotional wounds will surface and ask for our attention. Difficult feelings such as grief, shame, self-loathing, personal deficiency, despair, and fear can arise.”
This statement reaffirms the need to love yourself completely, no matter the emotions. Your responsibility is not to judge yourself, but to reconcile the pain and integrate it into your experience toward oneness.
3. Embrace Your Vulnerability As Your Greatest Strength
“Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It’s tough to do that when we’re terrified about what people might see or think.” — Brené Brown
What do you associate with vulnerability? Perhaps it’s weakness, fear, hurt or betrayal. These are the deep-seated emotions people experience when they reveal aspects of themselves. Let’s be clear. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness and can be your greatest strength.
“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage,” affirms research professor and author Brené Brown in Rising Strong.
Vulnerability is a double-edged sword. Those who protect themselves to avoid getting hurt, fail to appreciate intimacy and close relationships. Everyone is vulnerable, no matter how much they try to avoid it. You are born vulnerable and stay that way for your entire childhood. Your relationship with vulnerability is something you are acquainted with, yet abandon as you merge into adulthood.
Your association with vulnerability requires a shift in awareness in order to strengthen your emotional well-being. It is no use erecting barricades around you while hoping at the same time others will see the blossoming flower within.
The wall you construct prevents your true nature from being known to others. It was Rumi who said: “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
You must accept your vulnerability if you wish to live a wholesome life. Even the smallest act of letting down your guard is a commitment to your personal growth.
Your Fractured Parts
“What happens when people open their hearts? They get better.” — Haruki Murakami
Vulnerability is an act of courage because you merge with your authentic self, instead of hiding behind a facade to appease others. It is within the unknown where your greatest potential lies. Human nature is imperfect, yet the paradox is that you are whole within that sphere of imperfection.
To embrace vulnerability as your greatest strength, you’ll need to become aware of your pain points. Retaliation leads to suffering, since you are likely to defend your pain like a wounded animal.
Vulnerability involves healing your fractured parts by merging with the wholeness of your being. Consider it akin to a jigsaw puzzle strewn across the floor. Some might say the puzzle is incomplete given the pieces are lying on the floor. However, by gathering them together you create the entire picture once more.
That is the heart of your life story. You have disowned your fractured parts, instead of trying to piece them together. You are a masterpiece; a Rembrandt replete with perfection. Yet, you focus on your brokenness in the same way as a cracked oil painting when exposed to the elements.
The painting is no less beautiful because of its flaws. It is upon examining it up close you recognise the defects, while ignoring the complete picture.
“Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am brave and worthy of love and belonging,” affirms Brené Brown.
Heal The Pain
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” — Rumi
To heal your pain requires undertaking a process of self-examination. You must become curious as to why you react when your pain buttons are triggered. Every person has pain thresholds.
If left unchecked, they become inflamed and dominate your emotional landscape, not to mention your physical health. The moment you heal the pain, you reintegrate it into the wholeness of your being.
Suffering ensues when you focus on your sorrow, instead of appreciating the beauty and richness of your complete self. It is as though you are looking through a magnifying glass on your shattered parts. You give them more attention than they deserve, so others are made aware of your weaknesses too.
Your shadows are one aspect of your character. When healed, you come to realise the completeness of your being. Therefore, become a student of vulnerability by taking small risks. This act of self-renewal shines a light on your fractured parts, and is brought to your awareness and seen for what they are; a smokescreen.
Similarly, be wary of the ego and its aversion to being vulnerable. The ego likes to protect its image and vulnerability is a crack in its armour. It signifies weakness and will do everything to defend itself. Your greatest triumph will arise when you lean in to your vulnerabilities with openness and compassion.
There is nothing to defend nor protect, for the egoic voice has merely taken command and insisted on protecting you from getting hurt. It is Brené Brown who writes in Rising Strong: “I was reminded that shame is a liar and a story-stealer. I have to trust myself and the people I care about more than the gremlins, even if that means risking being hurt.”
The gremlins she speaks of is the small self preventing your magnificence being known. Trust your heart’s wisdom and its real essence, not the voice in your head. It is only then you will appreciate how vulnerability is a commanding act of strength and courage.
4. Self-Compassion And Self-Acceptance Is The Gateway To Optimal Living
Why are some people happy and content in their own skin while others are miserable and pessimistic? How about you? What is your predominant outlook towards life? Do you like yourself? Feel worthy? Struggle with confidence?
These are questions many people seldom contemplate until life overwhelms them. Yet, if you don’t make time for self-enquiry, you will be overcome with emotional grief when you least expect it. I wish to explore self-acceptance and self-compassion, two important factors for optimal living.
From the time you are a child, you face some form of emotional abandonment, leaving you with a less-than-positive mental script. You can be hard on yourself and that unkindness permeates into other areas of your life, leading towards a destructive path.
“Your problem is you’re too busy holding onto your unworthiness.” — Ram Dass
Emotional abandonment means to run away from fulfilling your emotional needs like self-love and self-acceptance. Even young children will entertain thoughts as, “I don’t like myself” and “I’m not worthy” and carry these thoughts throughout their lives. What does a young child know about forming such judgements when they’re barely old enough to reason with the world?
Perhaps your emotional needs were not met as a child and you developed low self-esteem? This is a common scenario, where children believe they are unworthy well before developing a self-identity. They mature into adults only to bottle up their pain or cover it up with: addictions, unhealthy relationships, hollow success, or material possessions. This poses a threat to one’s emotional wellbeing, because living like this makes for a miserable existence and leads to: depression, severe anxiety, mental health disorders and tremendous pain.
“The chemist who can extract from his heart’s elements compassion, respect, longing, patience, regret, surprise, and forgiveness and compound them into one can create that atom which is called love.” — Khalil Gibran
Countless people with low self-worth have faced their inner struggles and learned to love themselves. They were vulnerable and faced their insecurities and disappointments to learn self-compassion and acceptance.
In fact, a part of an adult’s journey often leads them to face the darkness to walk in the light. Sometimes personal growth requires walking through pain to discover a fertile oasis ahead.
Healing Inner Wounds
“What happens when people open their hearts?” “They get better.” ― Haruki Murakami
Everyone encounters some form of pain on their life’s journey. It begins in childhood and continues throughout life and none are immune to it. How you respond to your inner wounds will determine your attitude and actions throughout life.
To illustrate this point, consider the Buddhist tale of a man shot in the chest by an arrow. While the pain was immense, the Buddha pointed out how much greater the pain would have been if he was shot by a second arrow in the same spot. This lesson illustrates that despite intense pain or suffering, when you add a second arrow of judgment about your experience, you intensify the pain.
Inner wounds can lead to self-persecution. You believe, “I must deserve this” or “I’ll never be good enough” and this keeps you trapped in unworthiness. You can be hard on yourself at times, not realising it’s possible to accept who you are, despite your pain. To learn self-love and self-compassion begins with appreciating your worthiness.
You matter. You are worthy. You can love yourself and treat yourself with compassion. While it’s wonderful to treat others with compassion, do you treat yourself the same way? Do you take pride in yourself? Cut yourself slack from time to time? Believe in yourself? Are you aware of the inner critic that tells you otherwise?
Self-compassion does not mean feeling sorry for yourself and it is not self-pity. It means developing a nurturing relationship with yourself foremost.Similarly, self-compassion is not a sign of weakness. It implies being your own guardian, best friend and healer instead of critic.
It’s considered that self-compassion and self-acceptance are essential ingredients to living a fulfilling life, more so than high self-esteem.
The roots of self-compassion stem from your earliest recollection of your caregiver environment. So, it makes sense you learn to connect with these nurturing qualities to provide the loving kindness you deserve.
Self-compassion and self-acceptance means to eliminate expectations of oneself. It starts with the smallest gesture of loving yourself when you’re angry, scared, confused or tired. You cultivate a supportive inner dialogue instead of allowing the inner critic to take hold.
You learn to embrace your worthiness. It begins by gazing into the mirror and declaring you are worthy of love. Notice the feelings and sensations that arise as you make the declaration.
Some people are brought to tears while others delight in the self-affirming dialogue. Become your own best friend and soul mate. Scouring the globe for your soul mate begins at home standing in front of a mirror, confirming your complete acceptance of self: your flaws and your assets.
No one is perfect and you’re no exception. Embrace and love yourself without reservation. Life will make sense because you will be in tune with your authentic self, which is Love at the core of your being.
5. Don’t Resist What Is, But Embrace It
Surrender To The Unfolding Conditions
“There are ultimately two choices in life: to fight it or to embrace it. If you fight it you will lose — if you embrace it you become one with it and you’ll be lived.” — Rasheed Ogunlaru
There is great truth that being alone in silence is a worthwhile antidote to overcome the weight of human suffering. You languish in sorrow because outside events unsettle your sense of stability.
When intense or negative emotions arise, there is a tendency to escape them. This could be attributed to the view that negative emotions should be tossed aside and not confronted.
The nature of reality is filled with pain and suffering. Interspersed are moments of joy and happiness to the degree that no untoward condition is permanent.
It is how you respond to the difficult times that points the way to your personal growth. In her book When Things Fall Apart, spiritual teacher Pema Chodron affirms: “Life is a good teacher and a good friend. Things are always in transition, if we could only realize it.”
You accept life’s unfolding events by allowing experiences to move through you with unreserved patience. The moment you resist pain, it pushes against you with an overpowering force until you concede.
Your darkest hour, however frightening can never extinguish the illuminating radiance of your being. Consider it to dimming the lights inside your home to impose darkness while it’s still daylight outside. Even through concealed curtains, the light still penetrates the dark.
Striving, longing and expecting are ways the mind places barriers around your happiness. You never know what life will bring, so let go of fixed outcomes and trust conditions will advance of their own accord.
The minute you resist life, you are called to surrender to the unfolding conditions. In the moment you concede to universal intelligence, you merge with the natural order of events.
When pain emerges, drop into it instead of resisting it. Why? Because your resistance signifies your opposition to life. It is your resistance to what isthat is the source of suffering, not the pain itself.
Trust in your capacity to overcome whatever arises. Trust in life and the unseen forces that conspire to help you in the unfolding of your personal story.
The Human Spirit Cannot Be Overshadowed
“Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do.” — Byron Katie
Celebrate life, knowing the sequence of events change. What seems unwelcomed at first may become your greatest teacher. Expect the foundations to be laid before assuming the worst.
Your life’s journey is composed of layers, concealed by the weight of past conditioning. By allowing life to move through you, you consent to uncover those layers. Similarly, as you encounter an experience and overcome it, another layer is revealed.
Unpleasant feelings are not to be avoided, yet embraced. This does not mean celebrate pain, though accept circumstances as they arise, knowing there’s a vital lesson contained within it.
The moment you declare your intention to move through pain, you activate the wisdom to overcome undesirable events. When you shy away from an experience, you resist the moment.
As you know, that which you resist intensifies until you are called to face the truth, amidst untenable circumstances. At the least, to embrace life is a commitment that what transpires will do so of its own accord.
You have two choices: resist what emerges or accept it with trusted humility. What appears threatening at first is identical to thunder on a sultry night: loud and confronting, yet leads the way for the looming rain.
There is a reassuring quality in the wake of every experience. Even in the ravages of a natural disaster, the human spirit cannot be overshadowed. To rebuild one’s life, with stronger foundations is testament to your grounding legacy to survive any untoward condition.
Everything works out for the best if you get out of your way and embrace all that is. Life is a self-organising system, functioning irrespective of your resistance to it.
It was the transformational author and critical thinker Werner Erhard who taught: “Life will resolve itself in the process of Life Itself.” There is little for you to do other than stay attentive to the outcome.
To embrace all that is, expand your notion of suffering to correspond with the natural order of events. By spending quiet time in reflection every so often, you quiet the mind to allow the voice of reason to emerge, through the stillness of life.
6. Stop Surviving and Start Thriving
The Obstacle Is the Way
“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humour, and some style.” — Maya Angelou
You are born to thrive, not just to play it safe in your comfort zone. You might try avoiding failure because it weakens your self-esteem — although failure is a prerequisite for success. Ask any entrepreneur or adventurer, and they will tell you failure is essential.
However, I do not wish to embellish this article with positive psychology to make you feel good. So let’s cut to the truth since something drew you here, whether by accident or as a regular reader.
For many, surviving means getting through the daily grind, only to endure the same battles all over again. This is not living because you are needlessly clutching to life.
I realise you will have commitments and obligations. Mouths to feed, expenses and a mortgage to pay. Still, there’s a better way. You may want more, though life can be difficult and challenging at times. It’s worth reminding yourself, however, that the obstacle is in fact the way.
Some people seem to thrive under whatever conditions they’re faced with, while you wonder why you’re stuck in your predicament. To thrive means to grow and flourish, not simply to scrape by.
This is the premise of the film Groundhog Day, in which a weatherman played by actor Bill Murray, strangely lives the same day over and over again. No one wants to get by when you have hidden potential waiting to emerge.
A Shift in Mindset
“Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” — Maya Angelou
Those who thrive nurture their personal growth and step outside their comfort zone. Those content to merely survive are happy not to disrupt their lives because of the anxiety and tension involved. You can use tension and anxiety to give rise to creativity and opportunity.
Thriving requires a shift in mindset and taking chances on occasions. The key to thriving is recognising you are unhappy and willing to make changes, irrespective of the steps involved.
There is a staleness to surviving, in that you become wearied and discontent. Your soul calls you to venture into the unknown where freedom and good fortune lies.
No one enjoys setbacks and mediocrity because the human spirit is full of potential and purpose. Life consists of constant change, for it is sewn into the fabric of your life.
To shift from surviving to thriving, simply begin by attending to your negative thoughts. Destructive thoughts can run deep into a person’s psyche if left unchecked. Replace the negativity by addressing the underlying beliefs supporting them.
You cannot move from surviving to thriving in days or weeks. Personal development is a journey of self-discovery and the pinnacle of achievement. You deserve to have more and be more. But, you must take the first step and move forward in that direction.
Thriving Is a State of Mind
“Where there is ruin, there is hope for a treasure.” — Rumi
Don’t be concerned getting from point A to B in the shortest time. For as soon as you arrive, there will be another place for you to transition to. Take responsibility for your life by choosing your conditions, instead of blaming outside circumstances.
As you know, victims are stuck in a despairing mindset, believing the world owes them something. They contend life conspires against them, without realising they create their own circumstances.
It helps to know what you want from life. I’m not talking about superficial things such as the car you drive or house you live in. Yet something deeper: your purpose, what kindles your spirit and makes you come alive? I realise this is difficult for many to answer. Though it is important to know what is of significance to you.
Thriving is a state of mind in as much as surviving is a negative state of mind. Therefore, shift your awareness from negativity to what is working in your life. There is nothing novel about surviving. If you remain in this state for too long, your spirit contracts. This is tied to the deeper purpose for your life, regardless of whether you know about it.
Everyone seeks to find meaning in their lives. However, if you do not make empowered decisions, you relinquish it to your unconscious desires.
Take small steps without being fixed on the destination. Ultimately, your journey is one of self-discovery. The journey is filled with highs and lows. The lows help you to master yourself, so you gain lessons significant to your personal growth.
As a final point, refuse to accept negative conditions being permanent. It was Charlie Chaplin who quipped; “Nothing is permanent in this wicked world, not even our troubles.”
Knowing you were born to thrive is motivating, since there is more to your life’s narrative than you presume. It involves merging into a grander version of the life you only thought possible.
Author: Tony Fahkry