And how they can help you live your best life possible!
Question: If you had to pick, what would you say your top three motivators are? In general, as a person, and in your life?
What are the top three things that really drive you to want to be your best, to want to succeed, to dream big, to actually want to get out of bed in the morning and go realize those dreams, and just in general, to want to live your best life possible?
Answer: The THREE MOST POWERFUL Intrinsic Motivators we all have (after basic needs for safety and security are met) – the three basic desires and drivers we all share that underlie pretty much everything we want out of life, however different the specific wants out of our own individual lives may be, are:
Autonomy being, the desire to steer your own ship.
Mastery being, the desire to steer it well.
Purpose being, the desire for the journey to matter.
How true is that?!!! And being aware of it is so powerful!!! Here’s what I mean.
Autonomy- the desire to steer your own ship. We all want to be the designer and creator of our own life. We don’t want to live our life based on someone else’s creation or design. We want to be the one who’s calling the shots and be the director / author / CEO of our own life, right?! It’s our life, after all.
And we want (and deserve, and have earned the right) to live it based on our values, beliefs, standards, desires, and dreams; NOT based on someone else’s expectations, approval, control, or power.
This is essentially what I mean when I say, all the time- Live Your Truth! It sounds simple and obvious, but how many of us really, truly do this???
But, when we’re aware of it in this context, as being one of our 3 primary motivators for everything we want in life, it inspires and helps us to act and live accordingly; to make choices and decisions accordingly; to prioritize our time and energy accordingly; and to remember to stay true to ourselves and live our truth, not someone else’s.
It’s huge. Autonomy. Then, Mastery.
Mastery- the desire to steer that ship well. We want to live our life well! We all want to live our life in the best possible way we can, right?! We want to be the best CEO, director, and author that we can be so that we can live our best possible life!
Is there anyone who wakes up in the morning and says, “Nah – I don’t really want my life to be that great, I don’t really care if I f**k up my role as the creator and designer of my life.” Um, no! I don’t think so.
We all want to be the best we can be at life in general, and in whatever it is we do. No one wants to be shitty.
When we remember this, again – it inspires and helps us to learn, grow, evolve, and to continuously strive to become the best versions of ourselves so that we can master our skills, our abilities, and our capabilities to live our life well! It’s that simple.
Autonomy. Mastery. Then, Purpose.
Purpose- the desire for the journey to matter. OK, this one is dearest to my heart! Because, one of the foundational cornerstones of Purpose is Passion!!!
We all want our life to mean something, and to have meaning. We want our life to matter. To have purpose. Why? Simply because one of the core elements that human beings need to be happy is a sense of meaning.
Passion is so often what gives us that meaning, and that purpose. Its what opens up the gates to discovering it, cultivating it, and attaining it! Passion is also what gives us the motivation and strength to persevere through challenges, rejections, and failures long enough to have a meaningful impact!
And, there are two hungers we all have, and the word “hunger” here can easily be substituted with the word “passion.”
1) The smaller hunger of what I want now, in the short term. The instant gratification hunger; and
2) The greatest hunger of all, that which we all share – the hunger, the passion, for a meaningful, successful, and joyful life! The hunger to become all that we are capable of becoming, and to live our best possible life! That is the hunger, and the passion, that Seize Your Passion is made of! And that is the hunger, and the passion, that drives our desire to have Purpose, and to make the journey matter!
“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”
– Nelson Mandela
And then there’s LOVE. I can’t leave love out of this discussion because here too, the word “passion” can easily substitute the word “love.” And because, I really believe that at the end of the day, and at the end of all of our days, LOVE is really all that matters!
Did we love our life? Did we love ourselves? Did we love others? Did we live out of that love? Did we inspire love? Did we express and share our love?
Whatever comes out of, or is a result of, LOVE, and I’m talking about real, true love (in any form, expression, or relationship) is always good, and always meaningful!
That’s why doing more of what you love and being more of who you love is the key to feeding that greatest hunger we all have, the key to fulfilling those 3 primary drivers and most powerful intrinsic motivators we all have, and it’s the key to living your best life possible!
“Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong.”
– Ella Fitzgerald
“Love the life you live. Live the life you love.”
– Bob Marley
“Love is the oxygen of our lives. Breathe it in deeply today.”
– Tony Robbins
As always- Do more of what you love. Be more of who you love. Seize Your Passion!